1 Year, 19 Days
Amongst all the other things that have gone "wrong" in dealing with selling the house / showing house / moving sales / finding a new home to move to / etc. by far the craziest thing is when Bullet, Mom's dog, bit the neighbor kid in the butt. After the ordeal had been blown out of proportion in so many different ways, Mom decided to hire a dog trainer. I think she lucked out for once, because it's actually been informative, interesting, fun and even successful! Last week we had our first lesson. Bullet was given a collar that sends pulses to get his attention, like tapping on someone's shoulder. I can feel level 1 in my palm if I'm really concentrating and ready for it. A level 7 makes my hands feel extra sensitive after the fact, like I should be wary of more pulses coming. (I honestly don't know what the difference is between "pulses" and "shocks". The instructor said today that an electric fence takes on average of 8 times before a dog understands its boundaries. By our scale on the collar device, let's say an electric fence goes up to a level 20. Ours only goes to 7, so it'll take a few more "pulse" zaps before Bullet fully understands. ...An electric fence will make a dog jump!)
Well, Bullet doesn't like the vibration. So we just use the lowest of pulses. This past week we focused on basic commands: Come, Sit, Free, and This Way. Come and Sit are obvious, except that he isn't supposed to move until you release him. Which is what Free is. This Way is kind of like "I don't have a specific place for you to go to, walk with me this way." And with each command we must hit the button on a level 1. That way he knows to pay attention when Owner is around. It might take a few times to get his attention, in which case, if it takes more than 3-4 times of commanding him, we have to turn up the level one notch. The highest I've gotten with him was a 3. But by the end of the week, after using all of this while walking Luke to the end of the drive for the bus, it was hard to even command him because he was already doing things before I had a chance to say it. He also started going poop on his walks without any training! Instead of going in the garage. Mom says that he's "respecting us more".
Anyway, so today we had our second lesson. We put up flags around the front perimeter of the house, only to the circle drive and across to the side of the house before the fence and on the other side in the small field to the fence, so he would know his boundaries. The flags tell him, "you can't pass this point". If he comes within 5 feet, we warn him with the sound. If he comes within 2 feet, we "pulse" him at a 4-ish. (Every dog is different. Some only need a little buzz and some need the mack daddy pulse. Bullet whimpered and freaked out a 7 when we were testing him. He learned quick not to cross over by the flags. So we only have to use a 3-4. Maybe a 5 or 6 if he doesn't return to the safe spots.
This week is all about the front yard and going off leash.
By the end of his lesson, he was DONE. It wears him out. He didn't even want to be near the yard, only wanted to stay on the front porch. Or in the garage. By the end of the week, he'll know his limits.
I thought this would be an interesting thing to write about because, well, we've never had a "trained" dog before. And also, because Bullet is Mila's favorite. We'll go outside and she'll look around for him and call - Bull! Bull! He'll come over and lick her hand and the inside of her mouth. She enjoys it.... And my last reason is because maybe, just maybe, one day we'll decide to own our own pet (and of course it'll be a dog because we're dog people - must be warm-blooded unlike the stupid fish and stupid crabs Luke had/has) and we'll need to know how to train them. So for your records, sport dog? is the brand of dog collar that's been working. I'll let you know more about our doggie school as it comes up!
Monday, August 29, 2016
Saturday, August 20, 2016
Milestones Plus
I had better catch up. I realized that I don't know the exact day that Mila started walking. Believe it or not, I thought she walked first with me. And I was so excited about it because she took 3 steps to make it to ME!!! And then later I found out that she had already walked for mom. Way to burst my bubble. Anyway, here are the milestones for a 1-Year Old.
- Cruising/Walking - ALL THE TIME. Cruising is when babies/toddlers walk along stuff, like the couch. This is easy peasy for Mila. And I realized a few days ago, that she is daily walking more and more by herself. First it was 3 steps. The next day 4 steps. The next day 5 there and 5 back again. But, she's only walking when she wants, because cruising and crawling are a whole lot faster. And she's got places to be.
- Pincer Grasp - She was able to do this long ago. She's been able to break into her snacks with her teeth since the day she first had them! And... she can't hold just one snack at a time either. Must have hands full of food!!!
- Separation Anxiety - She has this every once in a while. She used to cry when I got home from work (after Aldo had been watching her all evening). She would be fine, but then when I would walk through the door realize that I had been gone. I think this last time I came through the door she just looked at me and then went back to what she was doing though. I was kind of heart broke.... There are other times though where she's okay with others talking to her and sometimes even touching her, but she'll just give them the stare down in Mama's arms. But if it's someone she doesn't know... you can't even touch her hand. Don't even try it. Last Sunday I was able to leave her in Nursery at church from the get go. By the end she was ready for me. They said she screamed every so often. They just had to keep her busy. So we're making progress. (Today I am at work from bell to bell, so we'll see how she did at Mama Lily's.)
- Throwing Things on the Floor - If she's not interested in it anymore, then it's ready for the floor. I don't play this game for long.....
- Forming Language - She's a talker. She can be loud. She's a singer too. I know she's saying real things though, I just don't understand them yet. Because there are times when I say something like "all done" or "night night" or "Bullet" and she'll repeat it. She comprehends. And she's forming it all in her mind. Sometimes it just doesn't come out clear enough for me to understand it.
- Sleep - Still not sleeping through the night, but that's because she's breastfed and I am a comfort object. I bet once we have the crib up again, or better yet, her own room (!!!), she'll be sleeping through the whole night.
- Solid Food - She can now eat ALL things! Her favorites are: avocado, fruit loops, grapes, spicy chicken enchiladas, and macaroni.
- Play - She likes to play with the cabinet doors, and now get into them. It's the tupperware... She'll pretend to cook like Mommy. She also plays "Peek a Boo" with socks, except that when she hides, the socks end up behind her head instead of in front. I clearly see her, but I pretend for her sake. :) She likes to read books herself. And of course, anything Luke has is fair play too. Oh, and I forgot to mention earlier - she'll try to climb to get stuff. And she has no fear of trying to get down either. It won't be long before she is getting up and down from the couch.
- Nap Time - Every once in a while Mila will take a morning nap, but most of the time it's for 1.5-2 hours at around 4:30 pm. Wahoo for something consistent!
- Dancing - I mentioned somewhere that she likes music. She bops up and down, sqatting her legs. She will be a little dancer like Mommy! <I squeal in delight!>
- Humor - She thinks she's funny. I can pretend laugh and she'll mimic me with her most fake, white girl laugh. Gosh, I love her!
A Special Photoshoot by Mommy
Mila in Her Tutu
(She was clapping and yelling at Bullet)
<3 One of My Favorites <3
All of the above were taken for her First Birthday Invites. She was 11 months old and I took them in our front yard by the apple tree gate. She only smiled because Bullet was outside. She kept screaming at him. He is her puppy. Haha!
Mila's First Pony (Almost 1 Year)
Watching "Life of Pets" with Papa
These next pictures were taken at the Overland Park Arboretum yesterday. It was my first "day off" from cleaning/prepping the house, from library work, and just a day to rest in general, and then my mom invited us to go to something like a botanical garden. It was boring and hot as all get out, but I got some good photos out of it. Mila behaved well and liked the flowers anyways.
Striking a Pose
(My Delicate Flower...)
Mom taking more pictures of cheesy stuff she'll never use....
The Cuteness!!!
Saturday, August 13, 2016
Birthday Blah Blah
I'm not too ecstatic about Mila's birthday.
It's not right that I have to put off celebrations to cater to the schedules of others. To the point where it may have to be celebrated in a different month entirely. And also, that those who claim to love her obviously don't care too much about her because then they would know that this is a huge milestone and would shower her in gifts, yet they didn't get even one. It's not about YOU on HER birthday. SHE gets the attention. I thought that this birthday etiquette was understood. But here I am on a venting overload.
Mila, know that I tried to get you a big birthday. I tried to go all out. I had the plans. It was going to be a "Ruffles & Bows" themed party. I had the outfit (and backups) picked out for you. I would have even attempted to do special frosting on the cake myself - ruffles! I had the invite. It came down to the date, time and place.
Can't have it at home (which is where I really wanted to have it) because the grounds need to stay clean for the sale and for the house going on the market. Also can't have it for long because it's a "distraction". Can't have it at the park because it's hot. Can't have it at the pool because there wouldn't be any food. Can't have it at the church because they've already done so much for me, and I would feel expected to decorate. But I can't decorate because it could also be considered a "distraction" and we need to save for a house.
I'm so sorry Mila. You are my baby girl, my sassy pants, my princess. I wanted to have this big, extravagant thing and I was, honestly, let down.
Here's how it went: I had to work, so while I was gone Luke and Daddy got up and blew up balloons for you. Luke really wanted you to have a surprise when you woke up. When I got home I was super excited about you opening your presents, but Daddy made us eat lunch first. After lunch and ice cream, you opened your gifts from us. You weren't even dressed up yet, but that's okay. We couldn't wait! Luke gave you a fun, pink and purple piano and a Minion microphone that sings a Minion-version of "Barbara Ann". It's about bananas. This is right now your favorite song. <3 Daddy and I gave you a barn puzzle that talks. Luke also made you a homemade Pokemon book.
Grammy called and was slightly bummed that you already opened your gifts and so we re-packaged them, dressed you in a cute outfit, and decorated your chair for when it was cupcake time. You re-opened your gifts. They were just as great as the first time around. You didn't want to sit in your seat (it was close to nap time) - but you were okay once you saw the candle, which Luke accidentally blew out in demonstration.
You poked the cupcake frosting. Once it was on both hands, you tried to wipe it off... with your hands... and you got angry because it was messy. So I forced some frosting in your mouth. You spit it out. I put some more in and you just weren't having it. Daddy said you might be like him and not like sweets. (I know that's not true because you can sense when I am eating chocolate.....) So I gave you some of the cupcake portion without frosting. You didn't care for it either. Cupcakes were a bust. You were more interested in these flavorless teething treats. And that was it. Blaaahhhhhhhhh....
It's not right that I have to put off celebrations to cater to the schedules of others. To the point where it may have to be celebrated in a different month entirely. And also, that those who claim to love her obviously don't care too much about her because then they would know that this is a huge milestone and would shower her in gifts, yet they didn't get even one. It's not about YOU on HER birthday. SHE gets the attention. I thought that this birthday etiquette was understood. But here I am on a venting overload.
Mila, know that I tried to get you a big birthday. I tried to go all out. I had the plans. It was going to be a "Ruffles & Bows" themed party. I had the outfit (and backups) picked out for you. I would have even attempted to do special frosting on the cake myself - ruffles! I had the invite. It came down to the date, time and place.
Can't have it at home (which is where I really wanted to have it) because the grounds need to stay clean for the sale and for the house going on the market. Also can't have it for long because it's a "distraction". Can't have it at the park because it's hot. Can't have it at the pool because there wouldn't be any food. Can't have it at the church because they've already done so much for me, and I would feel expected to decorate. But I can't decorate because it could also be considered a "distraction" and we need to save for a house.
I'm so sorry Mila. You are my baby girl, my sassy pants, my princess. I wanted to have this big, extravagant thing and I was, honestly, let down.
Here's how it went: I had to work, so while I was gone Luke and Daddy got up and blew up balloons for you. Luke really wanted you to have a surprise when you woke up. When I got home I was super excited about you opening your presents, but Daddy made us eat lunch first. After lunch and ice cream, you opened your gifts from us. You weren't even dressed up yet, but that's okay. We couldn't wait! Luke gave you a fun, pink and purple piano and a Minion microphone that sings a Minion-version of "Barbara Ann". It's about bananas. This is right now your favorite song. <3 Daddy and I gave you a barn puzzle that talks. Luke also made you a homemade Pokemon book.
Grammy called and was slightly bummed that you already opened your gifts and so we re-packaged them, dressed you in a cute outfit, and decorated your chair for when it was cupcake time. You re-opened your gifts. They were just as great as the first time around. You didn't want to sit in your seat (it was close to nap time) - but you were okay once you saw the candle, which Luke accidentally blew out in demonstration.
You poked the cupcake frosting. Once it was on both hands, you tried to wipe it off... with your hands... and you got angry because it was messy. So I forced some frosting in your mouth. You spit it out. I put some more in and you just weren't having it. Daddy said you might be like him and not like sweets. (I know that's not true because you can sense when I am eating chocolate.....) So I gave you some of the cupcake portion without frosting. You didn't care for it either. Cupcakes were a bust. You were more interested in these flavorless teething treats. And that was it. Blaaahhhhhhhhh....
Selfie with the Birthday Girl
Not Too Sure
Trying to Share.
Trying to Help.
Trying to Trick You, But It Didn't Work.
Mila Likes Her Music
Friday, August 5, 2016
Worst Week Ever
Maybe it's been two weeks, I'm not really sure - the days are beginning to blend. I typed this all out once already. It was cranky. It was tired and worn. It was venting. It was the honest truth. Yet, I still (even if nobody ever reads this) want to keep my family members in good light. Out of all the times I feel as if my husband or I have been misrepresented, I just can't speak ill of people... because I want others to get their own impressions, not base it on someone else's ideas and thoughts.
All in all, my lesson for this week is: Actions speak louder than words. And eventually, the truth will come out.
I'll end with this - and I'm sorry this is so random - People make mistakes. I'm trying the best I can. <3
All in all, my lesson for this week is: Actions speak louder than words. And eventually, the truth will come out.
- It started with mom putting the house on the market and wanting to have a huge estate sale. Everything goes. Except what she can fit in the 3rd garage. I would be better help if I knew what she wanted to keep (she is keeping a lot of - what I would label as - junk) and also, if Mila wasn't so clingy. Of course, when mom needs me, Mila is sick or teething or not sleeping at night or dealing with separation anxiety because I worked the night before.
- Our 7th Year Anniversary was in the middle of all of this. Aldo works crazy schedule hours, and so to celebrate we went to World's of Fun with the youth. He insisted I go this year because I've missed the last 2 or 3. I got burnt. Baaaaad. At the time it didn't feel like anything, and I pasted on the sunscreen repeatedly, but it seems the older I get, the less the sunscreen works. My skin was baked at the end of the day. Like a juicy, ripe tomato. So on top of Mila not sleeping, I couldn't sleep from the fact that I couldn't get comfortable. Lack of sleep = Lack of motivation to do anything.
- We didn't get our mortgage loan approved. Apparently we don't have enough credit lines.
- We haven't received any info on our credit card request. That was supposed to take 24 hours. It's been weeks.
- And last, like the cherry on top of it all, when I go to church, and yes, still without my husband which is a crummy deal all in itself and now without my mom or sis, I can barely stay for worship. It is a struggle to hear the message because Mila wants what she wants and I can't leave her alone in nursery because it is overflowing with kids and she's needy. Somehow I'm the only one that can communicate with her. Others can barely last an hour, if that. When Mila cries... She doesn't wear out. There's no consoling her unless you know the one thing she wants. So needless to say, Sundays have been warfare. Additionally, the leadership want to have a Sunday night service. I'm all for it, but I keep asking myself - what can I do? I have nothing to give. My Sundays have been taken. My early morning devotions by myself have been taken (it's the only time I can do any work because Mila is asleep). I'm worn.
I'll end with this - and I'm sorry this is so random - People make mistakes. I'm trying the best I can. <3
Tuesday, July 12, 2016
Gastro-some-kind-of-"itis"
Today has been rough.
Start time.
This morning I was bothered with how much hurt there is in the world. I looked at my son and looked at my daughter and thought how much I love them and how I am determined to raise them to be mighty and stand out. Anyway, I won't go into too many details. The reoccurring thought was long ago I decided "I won't be a statistic." Statistics say children of divorce are more likes to get divorced when they're older. Eh... We'll see about that. Aldo, we're going on 7 years and I haven't itched or budged, in fact we're more in love ...
5 Minutes. Restart Time.
... We're more in love and in sync and continue to want to grow together more than ever before. That's just one thing. Another thing was the cancer testimony. A lot of people get fearful and depressed when they find out bad news. I'm going to admit this, and don't think I'm being harsh, but it felt OK and I had peace, and although it seems morbid, we even joked around. Are we insensitive? No. Are we just that type of people to joke around when times get rough? No, not entirely I don't think. We just had a peace that seriously passes all understanding. Another event wi ...
5 Minutes. Restart Time.
Another event will be this purchasing a house. A lot of times people get frustrated and it's a rough move. Financial troubles or decisions cause arguments. Worry takes over. Things like this cause divorce, and strife among families, etc. I just go back to, "I won't be a statistic." I believe it's time to stand up and stand out and change the culture. Whatever society says - home buying is a difficult thing - It's going to be reversed and better. Whatever is meant to tear us apart is actually going to bring us together, 110%. Anyways, morning thoughts.
Mila slept in a little bit, but it wasn't a surprise because we went to bed late. Well, when she woke up she had spit all around her. It was clear and bubbly. (A little descriptive ...
Oops... Forgot to Restart Time. 5 Minutes.
Oh, I guess I did. 3 something and counting.
Sorry if I'm being too descriptive but you need to know I wasn't worried because it seemed like not at all alarming. We go about our usual day. Then, she spits up spit again, this time a little mucousy but still clear. Strange. Later I think she might be hungry so I breastfeed her.
5 Minutes. Restart Time.
She stops when she's done and a milk stream exits her mouth. (This has happened before, so still nothing unusual.) But when I sit her up she SPEWS. And it was A LOT. Like everything she just drank. I let Aldo know and he said to check to see if she had paper or something stuck on her tongue... Could be gag reflex. Nothing. Maybe teething? She does have one coming in on bottom. And she wouldn't let me check her mouth either....
So I go about as usual still, but keeping a close eye on her. I wanted to go to the library to print some stuff for our home buying, so we can be ready for the banks and getting "pre-approved".
5 Minutes. Restart Time.
<crosses fingers>. At this point I can tell Mila isn't feeling the greatest, so I'll be weary on feeding her liquids or over feeding her. We go to the library. I'm printing and keeping track of how much this is going to cost. And she's getting antsy in her car seat so I'm passing her a teething ring, and my car keys which she likes sometimes, and ok, maybe we'll try a snack puff or two. Almost done, but really antsy, so I'll take her out and hold her. Needs to roam, so I let her crawl a tiny bit. I pick her back up because we're almost done and she pukes. All over my shoulder and I catch some in my hands and get her to the trash can where she continues to heave. Poor baby. This is the time when you star...
5 Minutes. Restart Time. <sigh>
You start questioning whether or not you're a good parent.
So, I tell the librarians, get my stuff packed up, and get Luke and Mila out of there. I call ASK-A-NURSE (Which is one of the best resources out there. I know if I'm feeling worried, they'll let me know what's what). They tell me to go to urgent care for her. I can make the walk-in clinic at the doctors' so I book it!
5 Minutes. Plug in phone cuz battery is low. Restart time. Check Mila for temperature.
Alright before the doctor comes in, all of a sudden the waiting room smells like eggy, dead skunk. I'm thinking it was just gas. But think stink isn't going away, so I check ...
5 Minutes. Restart time.
I check her diaper. Oh boy, it's bad. The doctor comes in and says that confirms it - Mila has gastroenteritis. I looked it up... It's a contagious stomach bug. But do you know how to cure it? Let it run its course and make sure the baby doesn't get dehydrated. How do I do that? Every 5 minutes for 4 hours (from 6:00pm til 10:00pm) I have to suck exactly 14mL of Pedialyte into a dropper that only measures to 10... And give it to Mila. And continue monitoring her temperature and wet/dirty diapers. After the 4 hours I can reintroduce breastmilk. Then after 24 hours I can reintroduce solids.
Did I restart time? Yes. 6 Seconds. And.... We're done for now.
I was a human whatever-the-machine-is-at-hospitals-that-makes-sure-you-aren't-dehydrated-by-giving-you-liquids-in-a-tube. I was that. And it was hard. And tiring. Thank goodness Mila was in a cuddly and "I'm still cute" mood. Aldo and my mom both got home right as we were finished. I tried breastfeeding her later and we waited some time to make sure it went down. All seems ok.
This morning at 5am, she had a gnarly diaper again and puked at the same time. Aldo thought it might be a reflex from using all those muscles. But then she puked again at 8. And it was A LOT. I caught it in a hand towel.
So what are we doing now? Laying in bed. Watching. Making sure she doesn't throw up 3 times in a 4 hour period. I'm doing the "Rule of 20s". Feed 1oz of breastmilk and see if she can keep it down after 20 minutes, and gradually increase. Hey, did you know that gastroenteritis can last a few days????? <sad face.> Poor baby Mila.
Start time.
This morning I was bothered with how much hurt there is in the world. I looked at my son and looked at my daughter and thought how much I love them and how I am determined to raise them to be mighty and stand out. Anyway, I won't go into too many details. The reoccurring thought was long ago I decided "I won't be a statistic." Statistics say children of divorce are more likes to get divorced when they're older. Eh... We'll see about that. Aldo, we're going on 7 years and I haven't itched or budged, in fact we're more in love ...
5 Minutes. Restart Time.
... We're more in love and in sync and continue to want to grow together more than ever before. That's just one thing. Another thing was the cancer testimony. A lot of people get fearful and depressed when they find out bad news. I'm going to admit this, and don't think I'm being harsh, but it felt OK and I had peace, and although it seems morbid, we even joked around. Are we insensitive? No. Are we just that type of people to joke around when times get rough? No, not entirely I don't think. We just had a peace that seriously passes all understanding. Another event wi ...
5 Minutes. Restart Time.
Another event will be this purchasing a house. A lot of times people get frustrated and it's a rough move. Financial troubles or decisions cause arguments. Worry takes over. Things like this cause divorce, and strife among families, etc. I just go back to, "I won't be a statistic." I believe it's time to stand up and stand out and change the culture. Whatever society says - home buying is a difficult thing - It's going to be reversed and better. Whatever is meant to tear us apart is actually going to bring us together, 110%. Anyways, morning thoughts.
Mila slept in a little bit, but it wasn't a surprise because we went to bed late. Well, when she woke up she had spit all around her. It was clear and bubbly. (A little descriptive ...
Oops... Forgot to Restart Time. 5 Minutes.
Oh, I guess I did. 3 something and counting.
Sorry if I'm being too descriptive but you need to know I wasn't worried because it seemed like not at all alarming. We go about our usual day. Then, she spits up spit again, this time a little mucousy but still clear. Strange. Later I think she might be hungry so I breastfeed her.
5 Minutes. Restart Time.
She stops when she's done and a milk stream exits her mouth. (This has happened before, so still nothing unusual.) But when I sit her up she SPEWS. And it was A LOT. Like everything she just drank. I let Aldo know and he said to check to see if she had paper or something stuck on her tongue... Could be gag reflex. Nothing. Maybe teething? She does have one coming in on bottom. And she wouldn't let me check her mouth either....
So I go about as usual still, but keeping a close eye on her. I wanted to go to the library to print some stuff for our home buying, so we can be ready for the banks and getting "pre-approved".
5 Minutes. Restart Time.
<crosses fingers>. At this point I can tell Mila isn't feeling the greatest, so I'll be weary on feeding her liquids or over feeding her. We go to the library. I'm printing and keeping track of how much this is going to cost. And she's getting antsy in her car seat so I'm passing her a teething ring, and my car keys which she likes sometimes, and ok, maybe we'll try a snack puff or two. Almost done, but really antsy, so I'll take her out and hold her. Needs to roam, so I let her crawl a tiny bit. I pick her back up because we're almost done and she pukes. All over my shoulder and I catch some in my hands and get her to the trash can where she continues to heave. Poor baby. This is the time when you star...
5 Minutes. Restart Time. <sigh>
You start questioning whether or not you're a good parent.
So, I tell the librarians, get my stuff packed up, and get Luke and Mila out of there. I call ASK-A-NURSE (Which is one of the best resources out there. I know if I'm feeling worried, they'll let me know what's what). They tell me to go to urgent care for her. I can make the walk-in clinic at the doctors' so I book it!
5 Minutes. Plug in phone cuz battery is low. Restart time. Check Mila for temperature.
Alright before the doctor comes in, all of a sudden the waiting room smells like eggy, dead skunk. I'm thinking it was just gas. But think stink isn't going away, so I check ...
5 Minutes. Restart time.
I check her diaper. Oh boy, it's bad. The doctor comes in and says that confirms it - Mila has gastroenteritis. I looked it up... It's a contagious stomach bug. But do you know how to cure it? Let it run its course and make sure the baby doesn't get dehydrated. How do I do that? Every 5 minutes for 4 hours (from 6:00pm til 10:00pm) I have to suck exactly 14mL of Pedialyte into a dropper that only measures to 10... And give it to Mila. And continue monitoring her temperature and wet/dirty diapers. After the 4 hours I can reintroduce breastmilk. Then after 24 hours I can reintroduce solids.
Did I restart time? Yes. 6 Seconds. And.... We're done for now.
I was a human whatever-the-machine-is-at-hospitals-that-makes-sure-you-aren't-dehydrated-by-giving-you-liquids-in-a-tube. I was that. And it was hard. And tiring. Thank goodness Mila was in a cuddly and "I'm still cute" mood. Aldo and my mom both got home right as we were finished. I tried breastfeeding her later and we waited some time to make sure it went down. All seems ok.
This morning at 5am, she had a gnarly diaper again and puked at the same time. Aldo thought it might be a reflex from using all those muscles. But then she puked again at 8. And it was A LOT. I caught it in a hand towel.
So what are we doing now? Laying in bed. Watching. Making sure she doesn't throw up 3 times in a 4 hour period. I'm doing the "Rule of 20s". Feed 1oz of breastmilk and see if she can keep it down after 20 minutes, and gradually increase. Hey, did you know that gastroenteritis can last a few days????? <sad face.> Poor baby Mila.
Friday, July 8, 2016
Tennessee Calling
(Almost 11 Months)
So back and rested from camp, what has happened? A lot actually. We had the fourth of July celebration at Cam's house. And we have a new friend from camp that we are claiming into our big church family - Josh.
And we had debated beforehand if I was going to go back to work at the library. But decided we wouldn't discuss more until July. Well we discussed it, and figured out that going back on Wednesday and one Saturday a month would be ok, as well as continuing to work on Thursdays. Tuesday is a possibility. BUT.... something else happened.
Mom brought a real estate agent to the house. She's about ready to list the house. There's a few minor things she has to do beforehand - trim the trees and mulch the front. She could get that done in the next week. So our schedule to find a home has been moved up. The real estate agent said that the place would sell quick. Our timeline is 2 months (by October)!
Her plans are to move to Tennessee and live in a tiny home. :(
So all yesterday I looked at houses that we might be able to afford. Or different ways to buy us time or save money. Different ways to make it work. It's going to be strange without mom around. And not living in a basement. Being ON OUR OWN for real. It's time though, I guess. We've been here since Luke was 4 months old (that'll be 6 years in September). It'll be strange not having a Grammy around. Maybe this is a new season to get closer to Dad, or to his Abuelito and Mama Lily? And it breaks my heart to think that Mateo and Mila won't get to know Grammy like Luke does. Crazy new seasons!!
One thing Aldo and I agreed on last night was that this process - although others have gone through it and have gotten in fights about various things and it's caused divorces, etc. - that it's going to be fun for us. And we'll grow together. Lord showed me His provision all through camp and that He steers things, He can surely do this. I remember things being backward or opposite when Aldo had his surgery. Instead of scared, we felt peace. And during our marriage, it's been sort of opposite - we might have had one argument, but it's been seven years at the end of July and I haven't "itched" at all. We love each other more. And I can read his mind. He has yet to read mine. But he's not tired of trying. So I feel like with buying our first home, it will be opposite than what the norm is. As I said from early on.... I won't be a statistic. We're going to stand out.
I HAVE FRIENDS!!!!
So back and rested from camp, what has happened? A lot actually. We had the fourth of July celebration at Cam's house. And we have a new friend from camp that we are claiming into our big church family - Josh.
And we had debated beforehand if I was going to go back to work at the library. But decided we wouldn't discuss more until July. Well we discussed it, and figured out that going back on Wednesday and one Saturday a month would be ok, as well as continuing to work on Thursdays. Tuesday is a possibility. BUT.... something else happened.
Mom brought a real estate agent to the house. She's about ready to list the house. There's a few minor things she has to do beforehand - trim the trees and mulch the front. She could get that done in the next week. So our schedule to find a home has been moved up. The real estate agent said that the place would sell quick. Our timeline is 2 months (by October)!
Her plans are to move to Tennessee and live in a tiny home. :(
So all yesterday I looked at houses that we might be able to afford. Or different ways to buy us time or save money. Different ways to make it work. It's going to be strange without mom around. And not living in a basement. Being ON OUR OWN for real. It's time though, I guess. We've been here since Luke was 4 months old (that'll be 6 years in September). It'll be strange not having a Grammy around. Maybe this is a new season to get closer to Dad, or to his Abuelito and Mama Lily? And it breaks my heart to think that Mateo and Mila won't get to know Grammy like Luke does. Crazy new seasons!!
One thing Aldo and I agreed on last night was that this process - although others have gone through it and have gotten in fights about various things and it's caused divorces, etc. - that it's going to be fun for us. And we'll grow together. Lord showed me His provision all through camp and that He steers things, He can surely do this. I remember things being backward or opposite when Aldo had his surgery. Instead of scared, we felt peace. And during our marriage, it's been sort of opposite - we might have had one argument, but it's been seven years at the end of July and I haven't "itched" at all. We love each other more. And I can read his mind. He has yet to read mine. But he's not tired of trying. So I feel like with buying our first home, it will be opposite than what the norm is. As I said from early on.... I won't be a statistic. We're going to stand out.
Mila Eating Like a Big Girl!
She looooves spaghetti.
I've figured out that it's hard to get any picture other than Mila because when I am not holding her is the time I am able to take the picture... and I'm always holding her. When a time comes when someone offers to take a picture of the family, you take it. I try to get pictures of the two kids together. And of even Aldo and the kids. Nobody thinks to take pictures with me in them!!! HA! So here are our 4th of July pics. Enjoy!
*~ Buying our Fireworks ~*
(They offered to take our pic with the big blow up monkey. IT WASN'T EVEN THAT MEMORABLE! LOL)
Happy on the 4th
Sunday, July 3, 2016
Roller Coaster of June
I said I would do a two-parter and never got to it...
June 2016 has been a full month. It's been a crazy roller coaster. Sometimes life's like that.
The Monday after returning from our family trip I got a call from Dad; he was on the way to the hospital because Grandma wasn't breathing. I'd been expecting and prepping myself for this for a while (Grandma had multiple cancers for 12 years), but nothing can really prepare you. And no matter how much I thought I was ready, I wasn't ready for it at THIS time. Over the week it was a mixture of emotions. Luke's birthday sleepover was cancelled, but we made it work anyway. Camp was coming up. Offered to help Dad shop for funeral clothes. A constant back and forth.
In Aldo's words... "Grandma would've liked the funeral service." Whenever I go to funerals it brings up thoughts of what I would like mine to be like. If it's hot, make that thing as quick as possible. Tell some funny stories. I'm sure somebody has one. (Aldo and Maecy diving in the frozen pond after the ducks never gets old. Or the time when Aldo almost got the "stuck egg" unstuck. I know they're not really stories of me per se, but who cares... They make ME laugh.) I enjoy games. Cards specifically. The kind of cards that make you think, but I know that there's some personalities out there that can't sit still through the rules alone. Especially if Aldo's the one explaining them. So, play some cards and that would do.
For Luke's birthday we set up a fort, hanging from the wall. He'd been wanting another "fort night" for a while and it just happened to have worked out. We (I) decorated the living room with draping streamers that had cut outs of leaves attached. Green balloons hung around with dollar bills coming off of them. It was a weird green jungle in our living room. We rented Zootopia and had zebra cakes, popcorn, root beer, animal crackers, etc. to go along with the jungle theme. And a fantastic breakfast made out of donuts, whipped cream and strawberries. I love cohesiveness by the way. The movie had animal cops in it - donuts went right along. Sorry for the misrepresentation if you are a cop reading this. Everyone likes donuts I think. For Luke's present we got him a dinosaur robot. Mila gave him a dinosaur (which I should know the name but it's been a while since Luke has quizzed me or since I've read up on them in the dinosaur portion of Luke's encyclopedia...), and it matches the indominous rex... Because it too makes sounds when you move its arms and I think it lights up too. It's the dinosaur with the flaps on the sides of its head that fan out when it gets excited. Luke didn't have that dinosaur yet. ;)
He was completely surprised over and over. He said "it just keeps getting better". Oh my heart.
Now skip forward to camp. We went down on Saturday to prep the sanctuary and rooms, and unload everything. My biggest job was going on a Walmart run. I'm glad I did otherwise I would have been stuck watching, feeling useless and unhelpful. That night we went out to eat... It felt disconnected, or at least I did because I was stuck on the end away from everyone. That's what happens when you have babies. They require all your attention and energy, so it's really hard to carry on a conversation, let alone a conversation that doesn't include kids, and eat too. Food is always cold.
Sunday we went out for breakfast, and then the day was busy, busy, busy again. It felt like 2 o'clock (when the staff showed up) and then 5 o'clock came all too soon. I don't know how but for the rest of camp, I was always busy with something during the meals, so I wouldn't be able to eat until hours later. Or food would go half eaten and then hours later I would pick up wherever I left off. Registration (and this is supposed to be "my baby") went as smooth as ever. Meaning it didn't. Registration is never smooth. There's always something. This year it felt like it was confusing and hectic. Maybe that was just me because I was juggling a baby at the same time. And I have no idea if people paid. My inner organizer thinks there has to be a better process.
The first session was perfect. Mila wasn't a disturbance, she sang with the music and watched from the back. The merch table had a handle on things. It was all good. Then during prayer Aldo took Mila and I was able to pray over two girls. The first one was a confirmation over a girl. And the second was just kind of like a blessing-ish thing over another girl. I remember praying for dreams and visions over her. Both I prayed in tongues. The new thing this year was the After Party, but it was too late for me and for Mila, so we party pooped out and went to bed early. I heard they had fun doing the cha-cha, macarina, maybe the cupid shuffle, and hitting the quan. (Ask me about all about thee dance moves...... I know nothing. I used to be in once upon a time. There are times I miss dance; these are the only times.)
That night I had a dream. It was about how I got this weird call for help on my phone and I searched up and down the streets for this person. I ran into her at the post office and said, "I've been looking everywhere for you." She confessed to me that it was her calling for help but not for her; she called for her brother who was abused because he liked to dress up like a girl. Then I sensed (I can't remember if I ever saw them) that the parents were "Christians". So on the outside it looked like a perfect family, but on the inside there was a lot going on. I woke up shaken. My heart broke for the girl and her brother. And I remember asking God - what do you want me to do with this? And He brought me to the story of the woman brought before Jesus by the Pharisees who was caught in adultery. He said, "Let him who is without sin cast the first stone". And later, "where are your accusers? Then neither I will accuse you. Go and sin no more." It was awesome to have that shown to me so deeply. I realized that there are two types of sins: the kind that you can blatantly see and the kind that are hidden. The boy in the dream was confused. I don't know if he sinned or not, but the parents were embarrassed because what he was doing was out in the open. It was crazy! And I remember feeling so hard for the boy. He was tall and his face was expressionless. Like he couldn't feel any more. The sister tried to remain strong for him. Anyway, a bit later I was thinking, and a name popped in my head. Of one of the students. I was worried about her. Is she the one that is dealing with abuse at home and hasn't come forward? So I went to Miss C that morning during breakfast.
Later were the workshops. I was unsure if I was supposed to be in the older girls' workshop or not. They left my name off the schedule, but it seemed as though they wanted me up there for prayer and as another woman minister, and what if... especially after a dream like that. However, Mila got us kicked out. I stepped out during worship because she was a little loud and went back in for the speaking. I was just telling Kari that if she got too rowdy, tell me, when Miss C came over. I was devastated. I didn't know where to go. I thought I should take a nap on it maybe.... So I went back to the room. Mila slept a tiny bit. I lay there trying to get over what happened. I came to the conclusion that I might be heartbroken, but I was positive that Miss C was also heartbroken. The whole situation just stinks. It took a while to get over; I almost broke out in tears when Anna came over during dodgeball signup and then in front of a male counselor who I didn't know.
Much of the rest of camp is a blur. I was able to go to all of the worship parts of each session, but not the sessions themselves. I missed out on Angela Gazaway's preaching where she simply had kids and adults look into a mirror and tell their pain to go away. I missed out on the other church's drama. I missed out on Pastor Steve's teaching - I can't even tell you what it was. I missed out on Miss C and Pastor T talking about baptism. During those times I either took Mila back to the room to play or sleep, prayed for what felt like forever in the waiting area below the sanctuary, or went to the dining hall. One of the times in the dining hall, all of the kitchen ladies were just enraptured by Mila. It was after one of the hard times. After not being able to go to any of the services, I was frustrated with Mila particularly and seriously questioning whether or not I belonged at camp at all. (Let me backtrack real quick. I can't remember when, but there was an end of a service that I was able to catch where they called the ministers up. I told Kari to go up while I watched the merchandise table. I couldn't even sit there so I had to ask Shane to take over for me. Later I saw Shane, so I have no idea who took over the table. And there were times when I left Mila's snacks in one place and bottle in another and diapers and wipes in another. It felt like Mila and I had taken over camp with our stuff and anywhere you went you couldn't escape. The dining hall had her car seat in one place, her jumper in another, and her stroller in another. I kept asking myself why were they even in there when she wouldn't sit in them for more than 10 minutes. The stroller was only a storage spot for random junk the entire camp. Why take up the space?) And that same question came to my mind as well. Am I just taking up space? Why am I here? But I had to fog that question out with the fact that I had mentioned that earlier on during the planning process and they said they wanted me there. That alone kept me strong. So as I was keeping it together in the dining hall, Sheri Smith, Sheri Baptist, and Patty Bradshaw encouraged me with simple things. They took Mila and told her how wonderful she was. They gave me spoonfuls of peanut butter to feed her, a piece of red licorice, and for myself a bowl of fruit cocktail. I'm one to wear my feelings on my face. It's hard to hide how I feel. So I'm sure they could tell I was frustrated and worn out. They told me I was a good mother. (I could cry now typing this.) Then they went back to work. I sat with Mila and watched her enjoy all this food. Then she tried to share her peanut butter covered licorice with me. It was cute. Her jamming it down my throat, sharing her sweets. Then she accidentally dropped it in my fruit cocktail. So as she was grabbing it out, she realized ooh, what's my hand dipped into now? And started swirling her hand around in my fruit cocktail. It's funny how babies question whether or not something is edible. Or how they explore new things. She started eating the fruit cocktail with her hands, and when she was done with that proceeded to feed it to me. She thought me sucking it from her hands was hilarious. It kept her entertained because I ate two bowlfuls.
I had to give up blowing the horn for Camp Wars. But that's ok - I had my own walkie that I kept for all of camp and I was able to use the buzzer on it to let everyone know when each round ended and began. The kids loved coming over for break and oggling over Mila. They loved sharing their Camp Wars gear with her - letting her wear their color beads, head bands, tiaras, etc. And she would give out "kisses" freely. I claimed that I was getting "sloppy 35ths", although it was much more than that.
Sorry I'm going out of order. The day after the first dream, after the workshops, Miss C called me to come with her. I thought I was going to get reprimanded or an apology, but I didn't. She called me over because the girl I had a dream about had locked herself in the bathroom after throwing an enormous fit/rage and was in there crying and scaring the rest of the room. After sending the core leaders and group to swim for a free time, we talked with her a bit and found out that she had been texted someone and they told her to "go die". That's why she was upset. She also has "a glow" that comes over her when she gets mad. And has nightmares. And changes her name every so often because she doesn't like her original name. And she remembers one of her past lives. There was a lot of off the wall stuff. But I was able to talk to her and tell her I had a dream about her. And I asked her if she was abused and she said no. Afterward, Miss C walked with me and told me that she shows all the signs of abuse, but whatever we just did was beneficial because now she is open to talk to us. Even if not at camp, there's an open communication there where she can come to us in the future. The night following I had another dream, except a nightmare. It was about all of the things she said she had nightmares about. And it stirred me up because I asked God, why He would give me a dream like that? But He answered with - "Every good and perfect thing is from above" (James 1:17). I realized that God hadn't given me that nightmare. But it coincided so perfectly so it messed with me. I had to get my mind off of these thoughts, so I switched it up to "Whatever is pure... whatever is lovely... think on these things" (Philippians 4:8). And then I woke up Aldo to partner with me in it and also ask what he thought. We ended up praying over camp and whatever schemes the devil had for it, and then sharing it with Pastor T and Miss C. They told me later that it's difficult to be an intercessor, even when the Lord calls you out for one specific person, because it drains you. So now I knew my purpose for camp, if anything at all. And that's what I clung onto for the rest of camp.
I wanted to be at baptism so bad. But I had learned that God was opening doors and closing doors, literally, all of camp. I make plans, but he leads my steps. (Check out Proverbs 16:9) God is in control. And it's hard when I like being in control. So for baptism I had asked several people if they would watch Mila. They either backed out or it wouldn't work. It was easy for me to see that I was only going to be down at baptism if God was going to make the way. I watched from the balcony for a bit while Mila slept in my arms, and then from the dining hall window when she woke up. I put her in the jumper and turned around and fed her snacks, a constant back and forth, back and forth. She eventually got tired of that so I just held her. And I said in my mind - Lord, if you want me down there, you're going to have to send the person. I'm not going around asking. As people were dwindling by the pool, kids were no longer being baptized but leaders now, I remained calm. I knew that there was still time for God to send the person. And He did. Dez came in and asked if she could hold Mila. I jumped at the chance and went down to the pool. But then when I got there, I felt like I was pacing the pool, waiting for God to let me in. Waiting for the "go ahead" from a leader, or Aldo, or someone. I kept looking at Aldo because he always says that I beat him to it (to baptism). So this time I was going to let him beat me, even if I had already decided that I would like to be baptized. He wasn't budging. And I realized that he wasn't going to without a push. So I was directed by the Holy Spirit to go pray for him. I b-lined it and just started praying for him. I thought it was a good prayer at the time. I don't know if others heard, and Aldo revealed to me later that his spirit man was in a funk at the time, so I can just go by what I thought - that it was powerful. And Aldo decided he needed baptized. But it wasn't what I thought. So we all surrounded him, and I prayed for him. Others were like - dang! But I don't know what was going on... my eyes were closed. And then Aldo told us that he was letting go of pain after our friend Danny had died.
Then I was ready to be baptized. But it seemed everyone else wanted to go. So I waited. I didn't mind being last. (Matthew 19:30) Finally, I said I was ready. I was letting go of control. This entire camp was for me open and closed doors... me making my plans, but God directing my steps... God's provision... and my prayer was honestly "not my will, but Your will" and making that truth. And I wasn't tired of trying to keep it together. After that first dream, God showed me how he felt about the LGBT community. "I have been searching for you everywhere." And the story of John 8. So we all sin. We all fall short. Don't think you are better because you sin in secret. And so I was letting go of misconceptions. And another thing I had put off for a while was my questioning the Christian song about "Wine". There are people that think wine is distasteful and shouldn't be associated with God. At all. I was letting go of these things. And I said that I wanted to be childish for God. I wanted to let go of all of these things. And I wanted to taste His wine. I'm not really into the flavor down here on earth, but I'm sure God's is good. (Luke 18:15-17)
Miss C came over to pray for me I guess. And she said that angels were around the pool and asked me to look for them. I couldn't really see anything. But I "imagined" or maybe I did see - I'm not really sure... I'm not going to double-guess myself or the Lord... - I saw two wings. They were white-ish. There was lightning coming up and down them. And there were rainbows coming out. I can't explain it. Then my ears started to go numb. And then my hands. And I wasn't sure what to do with them. And I don't know what was going on around me. Were people laughing at me? Did they think I was drunk with the Spirit? I talked with Aldo later and he said that when I started speaking in tongues Miss C had backed away from me. I ended up getting baptized finally. Dunked twice because they didn't dip me all the way. And after me, Miss C got baptized. Which I didn't know she had never gotten baptized before at Awaken Camp! Her legs locked up. It was so funny. And I guess she was drunk/tipsy for the next hour or so and still at the testimony service.
All in all Awaken Camp was amazing. As much as the struggle was, God revealed things to me in that and through that. I pray I grow as next camp approaches, and that He continues to reveal things and speak to me like never before. And that I listen. And obey.
June 2016 has been a full month. It's been a crazy roller coaster. Sometimes life's like that.
The Monday after returning from our family trip I got a call from Dad; he was on the way to the hospital because Grandma wasn't breathing. I'd been expecting and prepping myself for this for a while (Grandma had multiple cancers for 12 years), but nothing can really prepare you. And no matter how much I thought I was ready, I wasn't ready for it at THIS time. Over the week it was a mixture of emotions. Luke's birthday sleepover was cancelled, but we made it work anyway. Camp was coming up. Offered to help Dad shop for funeral clothes. A constant back and forth.
In Aldo's words... "Grandma would've liked the funeral service." Whenever I go to funerals it brings up thoughts of what I would like mine to be like. If it's hot, make that thing as quick as possible. Tell some funny stories. I'm sure somebody has one. (Aldo and Maecy diving in the frozen pond after the ducks never gets old. Or the time when Aldo almost got the "stuck egg" unstuck. I know they're not really stories of me per se, but who cares... They make ME laugh.) I enjoy games. Cards specifically. The kind of cards that make you think, but I know that there's some personalities out there that can't sit still through the rules alone. Especially if Aldo's the one explaining them. So, play some cards and that would do.
For Luke's birthday we set up a fort, hanging from the wall. He'd been wanting another "fort night" for a while and it just happened to have worked out. We (I) decorated the living room with draping streamers that had cut outs of leaves attached. Green balloons hung around with dollar bills coming off of them. It was a weird green jungle in our living room. We rented Zootopia and had zebra cakes, popcorn, root beer, animal crackers, etc. to go along with the jungle theme. And a fantastic breakfast made out of donuts, whipped cream and strawberries. I love cohesiveness by the way. The movie had animal cops in it - donuts went right along. Sorry for the misrepresentation if you are a cop reading this. Everyone likes donuts I think. For Luke's present we got him a dinosaur robot. Mila gave him a dinosaur (which I should know the name but it's been a while since Luke has quizzed me or since I've read up on them in the dinosaur portion of Luke's encyclopedia...), and it matches the indominous rex... Because it too makes sounds when you move its arms and I think it lights up too. It's the dinosaur with the flaps on the sides of its head that fan out when it gets excited. Luke didn't have that dinosaur yet. ;)
He was completely surprised over and over. He said "it just keeps getting better". Oh my heart.
Now skip forward to camp. We went down on Saturday to prep the sanctuary and rooms, and unload everything. My biggest job was going on a Walmart run. I'm glad I did otherwise I would have been stuck watching, feeling useless and unhelpful. That night we went out to eat... It felt disconnected, or at least I did because I was stuck on the end away from everyone. That's what happens when you have babies. They require all your attention and energy, so it's really hard to carry on a conversation, let alone a conversation that doesn't include kids, and eat too. Food is always cold.
Sunday we went out for breakfast, and then the day was busy, busy, busy again. It felt like 2 o'clock (when the staff showed up) and then 5 o'clock came all too soon. I don't know how but for the rest of camp, I was always busy with something during the meals, so I wouldn't be able to eat until hours later. Or food would go half eaten and then hours later I would pick up wherever I left off. Registration (and this is supposed to be "my baby") went as smooth as ever. Meaning it didn't. Registration is never smooth. There's always something. This year it felt like it was confusing and hectic. Maybe that was just me because I was juggling a baby at the same time. And I have no idea if people paid. My inner organizer thinks there has to be a better process.
The first session was perfect. Mila wasn't a disturbance, she sang with the music and watched from the back. The merch table had a handle on things. It was all good. Then during prayer Aldo took Mila and I was able to pray over two girls. The first one was a confirmation over a girl. And the second was just kind of like a blessing-ish thing over another girl. I remember praying for dreams and visions over her. Both I prayed in tongues. The new thing this year was the After Party, but it was too late for me and for Mila, so we party pooped out and went to bed early. I heard they had fun doing the cha-cha, macarina, maybe the cupid shuffle, and hitting the quan. (Ask me about all about thee dance moves...... I know nothing. I used to be in once upon a time. There are times I miss dance; these are the only times.)
That night I had a dream. It was about how I got this weird call for help on my phone and I searched up and down the streets for this person. I ran into her at the post office and said, "I've been looking everywhere for you." She confessed to me that it was her calling for help but not for her; she called for her brother who was abused because he liked to dress up like a girl. Then I sensed (I can't remember if I ever saw them) that the parents were "Christians". So on the outside it looked like a perfect family, but on the inside there was a lot going on. I woke up shaken. My heart broke for the girl and her brother. And I remember asking God - what do you want me to do with this? And He brought me to the story of the woman brought before Jesus by the Pharisees who was caught in adultery. He said, "Let him who is without sin cast the first stone". And later, "where are your accusers? Then neither I will accuse you. Go and sin no more." It was awesome to have that shown to me so deeply. I realized that there are two types of sins: the kind that you can blatantly see and the kind that are hidden. The boy in the dream was confused. I don't know if he sinned or not, but the parents were embarrassed because what he was doing was out in the open. It was crazy! And I remember feeling so hard for the boy. He was tall and his face was expressionless. Like he couldn't feel any more. The sister tried to remain strong for him. Anyway, a bit later I was thinking, and a name popped in my head. Of one of the students. I was worried about her. Is she the one that is dealing with abuse at home and hasn't come forward? So I went to Miss C that morning during breakfast.
Later were the workshops. I was unsure if I was supposed to be in the older girls' workshop or not. They left my name off the schedule, but it seemed as though they wanted me up there for prayer and as another woman minister, and what if... especially after a dream like that. However, Mila got us kicked out. I stepped out during worship because she was a little loud and went back in for the speaking. I was just telling Kari that if she got too rowdy, tell me, when Miss C came over. I was devastated. I didn't know where to go. I thought I should take a nap on it maybe.... So I went back to the room. Mila slept a tiny bit. I lay there trying to get over what happened. I came to the conclusion that I might be heartbroken, but I was positive that Miss C was also heartbroken. The whole situation just stinks. It took a while to get over; I almost broke out in tears when Anna came over during dodgeball signup and then in front of a male counselor who I didn't know.
Much of the rest of camp is a blur. I was able to go to all of the worship parts of each session, but not the sessions themselves. I missed out on Angela Gazaway's preaching where she simply had kids and adults look into a mirror and tell their pain to go away. I missed out on the other church's drama. I missed out on Pastor Steve's teaching - I can't even tell you what it was. I missed out on Miss C and Pastor T talking about baptism. During those times I either took Mila back to the room to play or sleep, prayed for what felt like forever in the waiting area below the sanctuary, or went to the dining hall. One of the times in the dining hall, all of the kitchen ladies were just enraptured by Mila. It was after one of the hard times. After not being able to go to any of the services, I was frustrated with Mila particularly and seriously questioning whether or not I belonged at camp at all. (Let me backtrack real quick. I can't remember when, but there was an end of a service that I was able to catch where they called the ministers up. I told Kari to go up while I watched the merchandise table. I couldn't even sit there so I had to ask Shane to take over for me. Later I saw Shane, so I have no idea who took over the table. And there were times when I left Mila's snacks in one place and bottle in another and diapers and wipes in another. It felt like Mila and I had taken over camp with our stuff and anywhere you went you couldn't escape. The dining hall had her car seat in one place, her jumper in another, and her stroller in another. I kept asking myself why were they even in there when she wouldn't sit in them for more than 10 minutes. The stroller was only a storage spot for random junk the entire camp. Why take up the space?) And that same question came to my mind as well. Am I just taking up space? Why am I here? But I had to fog that question out with the fact that I had mentioned that earlier on during the planning process and they said they wanted me there. That alone kept me strong. So as I was keeping it together in the dining hall, Sheri Smith, Sheri Baptist, and Patty Bradshaw encouraged me with simple things. They took Mila and told her how wonderful she was. They gave me spoonfuls of peanut butter to feed her, a piece of red licorice, and for myself a bowl of fruit cocktail. I'm one to wear my feelings on my face. It's hard to hide how I feel. So I'm sure they could tell I was frustrated and worn out. They told me I was a good mother. (I could cry now typing this.) Then they went back to work. I sat with Mila and watched her enjoy all this food. Then she tried to share her peanut butter covered licorice with me. It was cute. Her jamming it down my throat, sharing her sweets. Then she accidentally dropped it in my fruit cocktail. So as she was grabbing it out, she realized ooh, what's my hand dipped into now? And started swirling her hand around in my fruit cocktail. It's funny how babies question whether or not something is edible. Or how they explore new things. She started eating the fruit cocktail with her hands, and when she was done with that proceeded to feed it to me. She thought me sucking it from her hands was hilarious. It kept her entertained because I ate two bowlfuls.
I had to give up blowing the horn for Camp Wars. But that's ok - I had my own walkie that I kept for all of camp and I was able to use the buzzer on it to let everyone know when each round ended and began. The kids loved coming over for break and oggling over Mila. They loved sharing their Camp Wars gear with her - letting her wear their color beads, head bands, tiaras, etc. And she would give out "kisses" freely. I claimed that I was getting "sloppy 35ths", although it was much more than that.
Sorry I'm going out of order. The day after the first dream, after the workshops, Miss C called me to come with her. I thought I was going to get reprimanded or an apology, but I didn't. She called me over because the girl I had a dream about had locked herself in the bathroom after throwing an enormous fit/rage and was in there crying and scaring the rest of the room. After sending the core leaders and group to swim for a free time, we talked with her a bit and found out that she had been texted someone and they told her to "go die". That's why she was upset. She also has "a glow" that comes over her when she gets mad. And has nightmares. And changes her name every so often because she doesn't like her original name. And she remembers one of her past lives. There was a lot of off the wall stuff. But I was able to talk to her and tell her I had a dream about her. And I asked her if she was abused and she said no. Afterward, Miss C walked with me and told me that she shows all the signs of abuse, but whatever we just did was beneficial because now she is open to talk to us. Even if not at camp, there's an open communication there where she can come to us in the future. The night following I had another dream, except a nightmare. It was about all of the things she said she had nightmares about. And it stirred me up because I asked God, why He would give me a dream like that? But He answered with - "Every good and perfect thing is from above" (James 1:17). I realized that God hadn't given me that nightmare. But it coincided so perfectly so it messed with me. I had to get my mind off of these thoughts, so I switched it up to "Whatever is pure... whatever is lovely... think on these things" (Philippians 4:8). And then I woke up Aldo to partner with me in it and also ask what he thought. We ended up praying over camp and whatever schemes the devil had for it, and then sharing it with Pastor T and Miss C. They told me later that it's difficult to be an intercessor, even when the Lord calls you out for one specific person, because it drains you. So now I knew my purpose for camp, if anything at all. And that's what I clung onto for the rest of camp.
I wanted to be at baptism so bad. But I had learned that God was opening doors and closing doors, literally, all of camp. I make plans, but he leads my steps. (Check out Proverbs 16:9) God is in control. And it's hard when I like being in control. So for baptism I had asked several people if they would watch Mila. They either backed out or it wouldn't work. It was easy for me to see that I was only going to be down at baptism if God was going to make the way. I watched from the balcony for a bit while Mila slept in my arms, and then from the dining hall window when she woke up. I put her in the jumper and turned around and fed her snacks, a constant back and forth, back and forth. She eventually got tired of that so I just held her. And I said in my mind - Lord, if you want me down there, you're going to have to send the person. I'm not going around asking. As people were dwindling by the pool, kids were no longer being baptized but leaders now, I remained calm. I knew that there was still time for God to send the person. And He did. Dez came in and asked if she could hold Mila. I jumped at the chance and went down to the pool. But then when I got there, I felt like I was pacing the pool, waiting for God to let me in. Waiting for the "go ahead" from a leader, or Aldo, or someone. I kept looking at Aldo because he always says that I beat him to it (to baptism). So this time I was going to let him beat me, even if I had already decided that I would like to be baptized. He wasn't budging. And I realized that he wasn't going to without a push. So I was directed by the Holy Spirit to go pray for him. I b-lined it and just started praying for him. I thought it was a good prayer at the time. I don't know if others heard, and Aldo revealed to me later that his spirit man was in a funk at the time, so I can just go by what I thought - that it was powerful. And Aldo decided he needed baptized. But it wasn't what I thought. So we all surrounded him, and I prayed for him. Others were like - dang! But I don't know what was going on... my eyes were closed. And then Aldo told us that he was letting go of pain after our friend Danny had died.
Then I was ready to be baptized. But it seemed everyone else wanted to go. So I waited. I didn't mind being last. (Matthew 19:30) Finally, I said I was ready. I was letting go of control. This entire camp was for me open and closed doors... me making my plans, but God directing my steps... God's provision... and my prayer was honestly "not my will, but Your will" and making that truth. And I wasn't tired of trying to keep it together. After that first dream, God showed me how he felt about the LGBT community. "I have been searching for you everywhere." And the story of John 8. So we all sin. We all fall short. Don't think you are better because you sin in secret. And so I was letting go of misconceptions. And another thing I had put off for a while was my questioning the Christian song about "Wine". There are people that think wine is distasteful and shouldn't be associated with God. At all. I was letting go of these things. And I said that I wanted to be childish for God. I wanted to let go of all of these things. And I wanted to taste His wine. I'm not really into the flavor down here on earth, but I'm sure God's is good. (Luke 18:15-17)
Miss C came over to pray for me I guess. And she said that angels were around the pool and asked me to look for them. I couldn't really see anything. But I "imagined" or maybe I did see - I'm not really sure... I'm not going to double-guess myself or the Lord... - I saw two wings. They were white-ish. There was lightning coming up and down them. And there were rainbows coming out. I can't explain it. Then my ears started to go numb. And then my hands. And I wasn't sure what to do with them. And I don't know what was going on around me. Were people laughing at me? Did they think I was drunk with the Spirit? I talked with Aldo later and he said that when I started speaking in tongues Miss C had backed away from me. I ended up getting baptized finally. Dunked twice because they didn't dip me all the way. And after me, Miss C got baptized. Which I didn't know she had never gotten baptized before at Awaken Camp! Her legs locked up. It was so funny. And I guess she was drunk/tipsy for the next hour or so and still at the testimony service.
All in all Awaken Camp was amazing. As much as the struggle was, God revealed things to me in that and through that. I pray I grow as next camp approaches, and that He continues to reveal things and speak to me like never before. And that I listen. And obey.
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